You have learned the value of both covens and solitary practice, and decided you want to join a coven.
There are good covens out there but caution is vital.
There are a lot of really bad ones too.
As a teacher of Wicca, I have heard many a nightmare tale of people who've ended up with The Wrong (Wiccan) Crowd. People can seem nice in the beginning, but may end up trying to control you or take advantage in some way, or lead you into evil actions.
Also, even well-meaning people can be a bad fit for the style of Wicca that works for you. There are so many different ways to be a Wiccan! When looking to find a coven, you need to find people who practice a Wicca that you'll be happy with.
In this article, we'll go through some warning signs, and how to protect yourself both before and after getting mixed up with a bad crowd.
Desperation Is Dangerous
If you think you must have a coven, in order to practice Wicca or be a real Wicca, you don't need to worry. Covens are entirely optional, and some people never have one and never want one.
If you want one so you can learn Wicca, well, it's like finding other Witches or mentors... usually it happens after you've been in it for a while. And that can be a really good thing! (This is explained below.)
And this is the most important caution you need to know...
The more desperate you are to join a coven (or find a teacher), the more at risk you will be of getting in with a nasty group.
And it's not worth it! It can cause you a heck of a lot of misery and stress and ongoing problems.
Having a coven or spiritual teacher creates energetic ties between you and them. It can take years to completely sever those ties, and meanwhile you will be at the receiving end of their energy.
You would probably do a lot of research when choosing a university or a car or a career -- don't wimp out on researching your spiritual teachers! They are likely to have a lot more influence (or, in the case of a bad one, control) over you for a lot longer!
So choose well the first time.
Test The Waters First
In Wicca, like anything else, Caveat Emptor is the rule. But in spiritual pursuits, it's often harder to discern the true gold from the fools' gold. And many people are so spiritually desperate that they're not thinking clearly or being cautious.
That's why it's so important to go cautiously.
Coven Caution Signs
Avoid anyone who does any of these...
Your Intuition Knows a Good Coven / Teacher
In short, anyone who pressures you in any way or treats you with less than respect is a Wiccan to be avoided!
Trust your "Spidey Senses" — when they start tingling, there's a good reason for it!
Some teachers truly do consider themselves Wiccan (though others might disagree on fundamental principles).
But there are some unpleasant people out there who should be avoided.
And there are also ignorant people, or people doing animal sacrifice and other destructive practices, or people power-tripping and all kinds of normal human-type goings on (like seeking status, ego-gratification, etc.) that are unhelpful or even harmful.
On the positive side, there are lots of good people out there, too. You just need to use your common sense and make sure which is which before you get involved.
Learning By Yourself Gives You Great Power
Keep in mind that it's often better to start on your own rather than with other Wiccans — not every Wiccan is a good person, or a good teacher, and it's really hard for beginners to know the difference.
And although it's challenging to be on your own, especially in the beginning, it's also a very powerful way to develop your own skills AND confidence!
Your best bet is always to start with yourself, working with the Divine directly.
The more you think you need someone to tell you what to do, the more imperative it is that you find your own power and path. Books and, of course, this website, plus paying attention to Nature and the wisdom of your own body, can offer you all the guidance you need.
Remember what the Charge of the Star Goddess says: "If you find Me not within yourself, you will never find Me without… for behold, I have been with you from the beginning, and I am the end of all desire."
You can learn what you need to know, through awareness and practice.
So if you don't find a coven or a teacher right away, give thanks for that! Explore Wicca on your own. Develop your abilities, learn as much as you can. All spiritual practices, such as Wicca, really occurs within yourself, whether you're with another person or not.
So focus on your own journey into Wicca...
And enjoy this fantastic journey you are embarking on!
Remember, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Get out in nature, talk to the Moon, bask in the Sunshine, snuggle up with trees, lay your belly on the Earth and breathe Her energy up through your bellybutton.
The Divine is all around you, waiting to be your friend. Sometimes I think when we are isolated from others like us, it's because She's trying to get us to make friends with Her!
Reach out your hand, and you'll find Her holding it.
Things To ConsiderFinding other Wiccans is usually not the beginning of the journey into Wicca. Almost everyone finds Wiccans later, once they have some experience under their belts. Most people start learning Wicca on their own, and then at some point a connection is made others. This is the most common way for people to start, so you're in good company.
<And it can take time to find the right coven for you. Don't just leap at the first group to come along. Make sure that they're trustworthy, and that they're a good fit for your spiritual path. (More tips on Finding a Coven.) It seems to be more common, in my experience, for people to start a new coven than to join an established coven. So that's another option for you.